Do What’s Best For You and Not What Society Thinks You Should Be Doing!

There are so many things that people think others should be doing. Society displays stereotypes that we start to believe even if the truth is right in front of us, even if what feels right is right in front of us, we allow society to overrule. People think that at a certain age, you should have your career and life mapped out and have settled down with a family, while others think because you are connected in any way, that they have influence over your actions, thoughts, and beliefs. This can be intentional or unintentional but is partially based on the fact that we do not all mature chronologically. For example, just because a man is 40, doesn’t mean he knows how to treat women or manage his finances. We forget about life experiences and traumas that have forced us into the state we are in! We forget that we didn’t have a blueprint to eradicate the things we endured in life.


Society doesn’t define who we are but we do! Our experiences and ideas are what make us unique and define our character. This shapes and molds us for the future we are destined to have.

Society has a hard time accepting people for who they are and what they bring to the table, no matter how big or small. Society places a lot of stress and pressure on people’s lives. Society can make you forget the simple things you enjoy doing or the simple life, you loved to live. It can also make you feel like you are making a bad decision because others don’t agree with what you’re doing or because they try to force their insecurities, bad experiences, and disbeliefs onto you, when the truth is, everything isn’t for everyone so we won’t all have the same experiences. Society will keep your expectations high and your morale low.


Society will let you downtime, after time, after time again, and have no remorse about your feelings! Society will paint a beautiful chocolate cake with more tiers than you can imagine but when you bite into that cake, it’s filled with mud, sand, and dirt. Society makes you believe that all women should wear a size 5 in pants, 7 in shoes, have long hair and be light complexion and society makes you believe that that image is the only thing worth looking at in this world, it brings your self-esteem down! Society also makes single parents feel like they will never find love and true happiness again.

You need to get back to the root of what makes you happy. Think about those things you enjoy doing and people who bring you joy and fulfillment.

Here are some tips to help avoid the pressures of what society places on people as opposed to what brings you happiness and satisfaction:

  1. Don’t share your plans with everyone because everyone may not be happy for you; know and trust your audience
  2. Understand that you will not please everyone, do what’s best for you
  3. It’s okay to let people leave your life or you leave theirs, remember some people are seasonal
  4. Surround yourself with people who encourage you and support you in all aspects; Don’t surround yourself with people who are eager to hold you to your past mistakes or condemn you
  5. Accept the things you can’t change and move on
  6. Don’t surround yourself with people who are eager to hold you to your past mistakes or condemn you
  7. Take fasting breaks from people, social media, and electronic devices when you need to reunite with who you are
  8. Break generational curses and make your own traditions
  9. Don’t let people tell you who you are, tell them who you are
  10. Don’t lose yourself in work or any relationship, always practice self-care
  11. Pray for your mental, emotional and spiritual well-being daily!

Katrina S. Williams

Katrinawilliams32@yahoo.com

Shifting Your Mindset: A Guide to Overcome Depression, Anxiety & Trauma

I’m ecstatic about releasing my first self-published book! This is special to me because I was the inspiration for this book. My life experiences helped shape me into the therapist and coach that I am today. Without those experiences I wouldn’t be as efficient as I am with my clientele. I overcame my hurt and pain and it’s only right that I help others do the same. Read more about my book below and look for the FREE SAMPLE copy that you can obtain today along with pre-order links to the book. The book will be releasing October 15, 2020!

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There are times in our life where we reflect on our past. We remember the good times, the fun times, and then get stuck on the bad ones; the battles of our life, and the emotional scars that gnaw at us. They hold us captive and take us down an emotional roller coaster that we can’t get off of. Well, it’s time to get off.

Shifting Your Mindset is a process that will not only help you face those battles from your past but will help you heal the emotional scars attached so that your future won’t be held captive by them. It’s time to take control. It’s time to shift your mind.

Paperback & E-book versions:


Shawnee Palmer, LCSW, LAC

Alpine’s Empowerment Agency

Love & Serenity Wellness

www.loveandserenitywellness.com

www.alpinesempowermentagency.com

Email: shawnee@alpinesempowermentagency.com

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Let Me Be Stress-Free!

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Let’s talk about stress!

Is there ever a day that you will not experience tension? Good and bad stress is a thing; however, how you handle it is most important. Do you sometimes run and hide from stress? I mean, genuinely try to distract yourself from it in ways that may help but is only a temporary fix? Stress is inevitable, and you can choose how to reduce it so that it stops having control over how your day and weeks go.

Stress can impact your ability to complete tasks, get along with other people, and affect your energy levels. And we need the energy to get through our days! The one thing that I like to do when feeling stressed is to acknowledge it; yes, it is that simple! If you choose not to address stress, it will always be there waiting for you.

I challenge you all today to say hello to your stress. The same way you greet it is the same way you can release it. Ever had an annoying neighbor stop by your house or call you randomly when you were not in the mood to chat. You can view stress in that same manner as you do the neighbor. You know that they have good intentions or need to tell you something beneficial for you. You go ahead and listen to them and then find a way to close out the conversation satisfying them. Before you know it, you are doing the next activity without interruptions. It is time to build a healthy relationship with stress since it is here to stick around anyway, the same way that neighbors are 🙂

Here are some of my favorite go-to stress-relieving activities:

  • Try a new hairstyle
  • Wear your favorite colors/clothing look
  • Go for a massage or attend a spa
  • Create a bedtime routine
  • Journal
  • Praise yourself
  • Review your accomplishments
  • Talk to a friend
  • Deep breathing
  • Read a book
  • Go for a walk, run/gym
  • Listen to music
  • Write a short story
  • Sing your favorite song
  • Reflect on past good memories
  • Practice and engage in routine spiritual beliefs/rituals

Comment and let myself and others know of some healthy & holistic activities that you engage in to relieve stress!


Shawnee Palmer, LCSW, LAC

Alpine’s Empowerment Agency

Love & Serenity Wellness

www.loveandserenitywellness.com

www.alpinesempowermentagency.com

Email: shawnee@alpinesempowermentagency.com

© All Rights Reserved.