Do What’s Best For You and Not What Society Thinks You Should Be Doing!

There are so many things that people think others should be doing. Society displays stereotypes that we start to believe even if the truth is right in front of us, even if what feels right is right in front of us, we allow society to overrule. People think that at a certain age, you should have your career and life mapped out and have settled down with a family, while others think because you are connected in any way, that they have influence over your actions, thoughts, and beliefs. This can be intentional or unintentional but is partially based on the fact that we do not all mature chronologically. For example, just because a man is 40, doesn’t mean he knows how to treat women or manage his finances. We forget about life experiences and traumas that have forced us into the state we are in! We forget that we didn’t have a blueprint to eradicate the things we endured in life.


Society doesn’t define who we are but we do! Our experiences and ideas are what make us unique and define our character. This shapes and molds us for the future we are destined to have.

Society has a hard time accepting people for who they are and what they bring to the table, no matter how big or small. Society places a lot of stress and pressure on people’s lives. Society can make you forget the simple things you enjoy doing or the simple life, you loved to live. It can also make you feel like you are making a bad decision because others don’t agree with what you’re doing or because they try to force their insecurities, bad experiences, and disbeliefs onto you, when the truth is, everything isn’t for everyone so we won’t all have the same experiences. Society will keep your expectations high and your morale low.


Society will let you downtime, after time, after time again, and have no remorse about your feelings! Society will paint a beautiful chocolate cake with more tiers than you can imagine but when you bite into that cake, it’s filled with mud, sand, and dirt. Society makes you believe that all women should wear a size 5 in pants, 7 in shoes, have long hair and be light complexion and society makes you believe that that image is the only thing worth looking at in this world, it brings your self-esteem down! Society also makes single parents feel like they will never find love and true happiness again.

You need to get back to the root of what makes you happy. Think about those things you enjoy doing and people who bring you joy and fulfillment.

Here are some tips to help avoid the pressures of what society places on people as opposed to what brings you happiness and satisfaction:

  1. Don’t share your plans with everyone because everyone may not be happy for you; know and trust your audience
  2. Understand that you will not please everyone, do what’s best for you
  3. It’s okay to let people leave your life or you leave theirs, remember some people are seasonal
  4. Surround yourself with people who encourage you and support you in all aspects; Don’t surround yourself with people who are eager to hold you to your past mistakes or condemn you
  5. Accept the things you can’t change and move on
  6. Don’t surround yourself with people who are eager to hold you to your past mistakes or condemn you
  7. Take fasting breaks from people, social media, and electronic devices when you need to reunite with who you are
  8. Break generational curses and make your own traditions
  9. Don’t let people tell you who you are, tell them who you are
  10. Don’t lose yourself in work or any relationship, always practice self-care
  11. Pray for your mental, emotional and spiritual well-being daily!

Katrina S. Williams

Katrinawilliams32@yahoo.com

Teaching Your Child Self-Love

It’s important that children are given not only shelter, food & clothing but tools to help them to love themselves. Unfortunately, this is a common skill that kids lack! It’s a caretaker’s responsibility to provide kids with tools to help them feel more confident about themselves. This could minimize anxiety and depressive symptoms in addition to self-harming behaviors. This is just a quick reference, however if you have other options to add, please feel free to leave a comment with the suggestion!

1. Teach your kids about their characteristics.

2. Normalize the behaviors that do not cause harm to themselves or others.

3. Avoid calling them weird if they do things differently from you.

4. Support & encourage their interests.

5. Talk to them to get a better understanding of the things they enjoy.

6. Normalize their differences from others by making them feel good & not bad.

7. Find things that are unique about yourself and share it with them.

8. Allow them to make mistakes! Remember you were once their age and didn’t know it all.

Check out our Wellness Services & Products page for additional resources.

Shawnee Palmer, LCSW, LAC
Alpine’s Empowerment Agency, LLC
Shawnee@alpinesempowermentagency.com
Bj’s Bookstore
Reiki/Coaching

Bully Interventions for Parents/Caregivers

In today’s society, bullying is being taken to an extreme where kids are fearful of peers/attending school, self-harming, traumatized, committing suicide and have low self-esteem amongst many other things. It’s a topic that has been normalized in the past and written off as usual kid behavior. However, is usual kid behavior more harmful than it used to be?

Bullying is difficult to prevent however following up with your children, school officials and other youth can soothe a bullying event and cause less damage to the child if there is a quick follow-up.

Have routine conversations with your children about appropriate and inappropriate talk with peers.

  1. Teach them how to express their emotions and manage them.
  2. Notify school officials to report the bullying and get a clear understanding of their policy and what next steps are going to be taken on their behalf.
  3. Provide your children with extra support and positive affirmations to help them positively view themselves.
  4. Speak with them about bullying and attempt to refrain from showing aggressive emotions in response.
  5. Show that you’re in control so that they feel protected giving you the information.
  6. Encourage your child to think about how it would feel if they were the other child who is being bullied.
  7. Teach them alternative ways to control & manage their anger ie: talking about their feelings to a friend or family member, reading a book, journaling, or doing physical activities.
  8. Keep them involved or connected with a community agency that encourages self-love and teaches life skills.

Check out our Wellness Services & Products page for additional resources.

Shawnee Palmer, LCSW, LAC
Alpine’s Empowerment Agency, LLC
Shawnee@alpinesempowermentagency.com
Bj’s Bookstore
Reiki/Coaching

Limited, Emotional Support System

Are you always considered the strong one within your family, a circle of friends, colleagues or relationships in GENERAL? Tired of feeling like you have no outlet to expressing yourself and seeking guidance?

The role that you play in other’s lives is mighty but pouring from an empty cup leaves you, well EMPTY! Here’s an article that gives you tips on things that you can do to overcome feelings of not being supported.

Be sure to download your free worksheet on “Converting Your Weaknesses into STRENGTHS!”

Life can be hard however, you don’t have to just let it be! You have the power to do so much more!

Here are some ways to better handle having a lack of support within your life:
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1. Make a list of specific things that you desire to have support on ie: relationship issues, entrepreneurship challenges, expression of feelings towards stressors, etc.

2. Write about your ideal support system and visualize what that would look like.

3. Identify people who have been willing to be supportive of you and spend more time with them.

4. Identify those who have not been supportive and minimize expectations of them. Find alternative things that they provide you with and set boundaries with yourself to prevent the build-up of negative emotions towards them.

5. Connect with people who have similar interests as you.

6. Attend networking or social events by yourself. By doing this, you will place yourself in a position to connect with more people.

7. Seek support groups within your local area or via online communities.

Check out our Wellness Services & Products page for additional resources.

Shawnee Palmer, LCSW, LAC
Alpine’s Empowerment Agency, LLC
Shawnee@alpinesempowermentagency.com
Bj’s Bookstore
Reiki/Coaching

Basic Statistics 101

Yes, I’m excited to post my first blog! As you know, Alpine’s Empowerment Agency focuses on individual and group counseling. What you may not be aware of are the raving statistics of the youth and teen population who suffer from addiction, depression and anxiety.

In a world where social media is prevalent in households, schools and communities, it has come to my attention that there just isn’t enough “talk” about these problems teens face on a daily basis. It’s more common than most would think.

Please take some time out to view Samhsa’s statistics on high school and youth trends: High School, Youth Trends.

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